Top 10 Dating advice tips

The right person wouldn’t ghost you.

If you invited her out, expect to pay.

This is not sexist. You are asking someone for their time. Time is valuable. * It's traditional. There is nothing wrong in keeping some traditions in dating. There is enough coo coo changes to deal with.* If drinks are involved it is reasonable to expect her to offer the next round.* If you offer apps/desert, expect to pay for that too, if she just orders it, expect her to offer. * Just because you paid for $60 for two 4000 calorie piles of greasy grub at Apple-bee's doesn't mean she owes you a god damned thing. You have to dazzle her with charm and shoot your shot after that.

If you're not interested in them after the first date, don't wait to tell them!.

Seriously, whether you're a guy or girl and you just didn't feel the spark, didn't like their personality, or simply didn't enjoy yourself, that's all fine but don't run away from the problem just because it's easier for you. Instead, be polite and face the problem, because if they enjoyed themselves it's painful disheartening and unnecessary for them to think they're not even worth the acknowledgement. Thank them for coming out with you (because they probably had to hype themselves up and go through all of those nerves which let's be honest, is scary as it is) and in your own words, tell them you didn't feel the spark but wish them the best of luck. That way you're polite, mature and straight to the point.

Don’t make someone take off their headphones.

Saw this guy do this to a girl in the store I work in. He then proceeded to drop some rehearsed “game”. It didn’t go well for him.1) Headphones in is a universal “don’t talk to me” sign.2) It’s annoying anyway unless it’s an emergency.3) Don’t then go “wow so you weren’t even going to listen to me” afterwards and throw a shit fit.Unless you really want to find out how harshly someone can reject you don’t do it.

Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Be upfront with ur SO!!.

Okay so i know i’m not the only one who hates being left in the dark in situations involving relationships. i know sometimes ppl try to distance themselves or sugar coat things in order to spare the other persons feelings. i feel that doing so causes more problems and actually hurts the persons feelings more when they find out the truth about whatever the other person was hiding/doing. for example, if u lose feelings for someone, pls just tell them and don’t just either lead them on or start ghosting them. if u cheat, pls just tell them right away and don’t keep pretending!! it’s not that hard ppl!! and it saves many stresses and sad times in the end by doing so.

Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure. Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’ Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience. Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people. If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed? ‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’ It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true. Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!” Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’. Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech. However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out. Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2] One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

Practice makes perfect

Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation. In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand. Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!